shifting

I've found gently preloading the shift lever helps me with my shifting. What do you do?

I'm a fumble fingered old #art, but I do try to operate the clutch so my wife doesn't smack her forehead on the back of my helmet. I have found, strangely enough, that up shifting as quickly as possible (not short shifting, but preloading the shift lever, then working the clutch and throttle...